Episode 50| ASMR Keep It Ta Yaself

Hey! Hi! It’s me MommaQueue. I welcome you to Moments in Queue ASMR episode. In this episode I will titilate your ear with my voice and random sounds. 

In Queue today: 60 seconds of heaven > What’s going on > it’s giving > Let’s get it popping> and croak on the joke. 

I talk about my Valentine’s Day, apologize to Mo’Nique on my assumption about her Netflix deal, and I remind people to stop oversharing. It gets you in trouble yay. But it’s also never deletes boo. 

Chapters

• 0:34 Mama Q's ASMR Episode
• 6:35 Personal Reflections and Encouragement
• 22:15 Exploring Gender Stereotypes and Self-Expression
• 26:03 Child Labor Scandal in Memphis
• 30:25 Excessive Sharing and Business Jokes

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:34

M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E, that's my name, mama Q. M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that's my name. Mama Q, say it faster or slow, don't really matter, though the U-E gets a minute. Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kinda dizzy bro. Who is she? Mama Q? Mama gave birth little waste, no girth, 60 years ago. No, I don't want. Mo Q is a line and I tried to align this double end. Tundra petty, haha, it's one of my modules. Mama Q, I'm the first one in and the first one out. Memphis Tend to Key is my whereabouts. Duncan Plain Mayn, saying stick it to one topic. I reply your mind is very myopic with Mama Q. You need better optist picking and choosing to copy me. Are you inspired? Uh, definitely. No need to whisper gracefully. I like a better off key. Now let's see. Do you remember me? M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that's my name, Mama Q. Hey, hi, it's me, mama Q. I welcome you to Mamas and Q.

Speaker 2: 1:53

ASMR episode. In this episode, I will titillate your ear with my voice and random sounds and Q. Today, 60 seconds of giving. What's going on? It's giving. Let's get it popping and croak on the joke. Huh, what's going on? In this segment? I'll tell you what's going on in my life since last episode.

Speaker 2: 3:26

All right, we had Valentine's Day, woop, woop. Now my booling love of my motherfucking life. This is going to be the last time I let him get away with this. So we said that we weren't going to exchange gifts. Well, I had requested for us not to because, as I've always said before, he does so much for me that I really don't want to ask for anything additional. Again, there's nothing wrong with people who are like that, but I don't want to because, again, I get, I feel like I receive, love all the time or whatever. And so I had taken him and me and me out of the Friday before Valentine's Day and I paid for it after kind of some heart. So we were like, okay, that's Valentine's Day. What did he do? He came through with some roses and some chocolate. Well, no, no, no, there was. It was flowers, because it did have roses, but it wasn't all the way roses, okay. So he gave me that for Valentine's Day and I'm just like I was appreciative. I was appreciative of it. I'm pretty sure I shared this before Christmas.

Speaker 2: 4:38

We said again because at the time my money wasn't looking right, so we weren't going to exchange, because I always feel bad, like if I can't get him a gift and stuff, and so like he was like, okay, and he gave me a Michael Kors purse and we're so petty with it. So, okay, I've realized that he's still going to take care of me, no matter what I say, and I'm not offended or mad and stuff. And I was like, dang, can I do something for you? He was like, well, you already took me and made me to a restaurant and I was like, yeah, but like something for you? He was like, no, I'm good, and so I just never know what I could do for him aside from saying thank you of all the things that he's done for me. It's so greatly appreciated and stuff.

Speaker 2: 5:28

So that was that and many me came through with a promise ring and oh my gosh, I'm not ready. I know that she's getting older, but I had so many questions and I was trying to ensure that my trauma wasn't showing because I was asking all these questions about the relationship and what does this ring means and everything like that. Thank you very much. There are some people out there in the world obviously I don't think this particular guy is like this, who like if they spend money, time and effort on you, they get upset. If the feeling is not Reciprocated or if you change your mind and you can get violent and stuff like that. And so that I know, is coming from my trauma and I didn't want to project my trauma to her. So the best way that I feel like I could do that was by me asking her all these questions like what does this mean to you? And Stuff like that, and what is his expectations about it? You know, do you want to be his girlfriend? Like all these things and stuff like that.

Speaker 2: 6:35

And I, and how, about a few days later we had to get some oil, cooking oil, to get the ring off because it couldn't fit. And and I think it's so funny, because of the simple fact she was kind of hesitant about On the ring itself and I guess, like that was. I say Spirit right, well knows, but I feel like dang, is that spirit way of saying like yo get rid of the ring or whatever, I'm not for sure. But again, if she like it, I love it and I'm okay with that. Um, as always, speaking about the ancestors and stuff, I did give them some flowers because for holidays I try to show them love too, and, um, they've been coming through with me a lot and Stuff is, so I just try to do something a little special, as much as I could, just to show them that I'm appreciative of them. And let's see what else. Um, oh, the new job that's going well and stuff like that. Oh yeah, it's going well. Um, I Don't know for my personality, well, okay, so I have a feeling that my personality always screams intimidation and stuff, and I hate that, but it is what it is.

Speaker 2: 7:51

I can't control no one by myself, so that's kind of aggravated because I feel like my co-workers don't really want to have shit to do with me, which on one end, is great, but on the other end it's like dang, like we're supposed to be a team and work together and stuff like that. So I kind of don't like that. But, um, I'm slowly trying to come out of my shell or trying to have them come out of. Well, no, have me come out my shell a little bit, but not a whole lot, because, at the end of the day, yes, we're a team, but we're still got workers and stuff. So that's that.

Speaker 2: 8:24

Oh, and I also have been listening to the little like um, let me see what's the downloads that spirit is giving me. It's been going well and I've been meditating more. Um, I try to meditate for a little bit, consist Consistently, I'm trying, I'm getting there, work in progress, but, like before I became a workday, I just meditate for a little bit and just go on with it. And, lastly, I'm driving with many me. Oh, my gosh, we're surviving, we're surviving. But she needs more practice and so I think what I'm gonna do is have, like the other family members, try to help her, because I don't know if she's quote-unquote, not listening, or it's getting emotional, which emotions are fine. But, like you know, is this reaction because I'm her mom or is it because, like, she just doesn't want to listen to me, or is she always nervous, like is she anxious by the wheel? So we're trying to figure that part out. But, yeah, aside from that, life has been going great and stuff it's giving.

Speaker 2: 9:38

I'm giving you the encouragement to make through the week. Let's tackle eating that elephant together, one bite at a time. Yo, oh my gosh, so much. I want to give someone encouragement over, and this might sound like a repeat, but clearly Some people might need it here again. So I'm giving you the encouragement to keep your opinions and need to overshare to yourself. Then I want you to keep speaking your truth.

Speaker 2: 10:08

Everyone got a platform and a mic in their mouth, and I know how this is sounding coming from me, but my audience and content is niche as hell and I like it. Others, though, oh my fucking goodness, I know I ain't their target audience, but it's, it's fine below it. Not everything needs to be shared because it's on the internet forever, and I'm sure I mentioned it before, but again, it gotta be a friendly reminder. So I know that it might sound like it doesn't make any sense, like I'm contradicting contradicting myself by saying keep your opinions to yourself, but speak your truth. So, um, I'm not gonna go too much into Monique the comedian, because I'm gonna talk about this in the pop culture episode, but what I mean with speaking truth is again like what she did with her Saying about how much money that netflix offered her and how she felt like she was more, she was worth more than that. That's speaking her truth.

Speaker 2: 11:13

Now, other things that I think that, yes, speak your truth, but also don't Overshare and keep your opinions to yourself. This is not monique, this is like more so I guess other people in the world like Opinions, that Opinions that like make you be viewed a certain way and if you're saying these opinions, just they have clickbait, or to have a reaction like I'm gonna keep it to yourself or whatever Like, and we know that opinions cannot be proved. So it's okay to have your opinions, but Sometimes, if they're cringe worthy, just keep it to yourself. Like, for example, earlier today, a classmate and my job, yeah, co-worker why I'm saying oh yeah, cuz we sometimes training classes anyway co-worker of mine Was saying something I didn't get you all of it, but it says something along the the ends of yeah, you gotta do that neutral cock clothing shit. And so of course, already peeped that he seems like a very conservative type of person and stuff, and like for me it didn't offend me, but for me to hear him say something like that, yeah, that was him speaking his truth, but you just don't know who's around, who you could offend. So by saying the neutral cock cloth and shit like that sounds disrespectful because I think that he's gonna see what's the gender of his child. And so again I'm there, bits and pieces of the conversation and Knowing his personality, this lines up.

Speaker 2: 12:59

Now it's not like I Miss context, know, I exactly knew what he meant because, again, some people don't like to learn and they don't want to know no things. So having gender neutral clothing colors, you know, some people might be a bald edit of a pronouncing, but that's tough together. But like, if you don't know the sex of your child and when you do get your all, wow, yep, the word escapes ultrasound, yeah, when you get your ultrasound, the person who's doing the ultrasound can never say it's 100% this or that type of baby that you're carrying. So like, for my mean to me I think that was like 60% it's a girl or whatever, like that. And you know, humans make mistakes. So if the couple doesn't want to know the sex of the baby, the gender, what, not of the baby, obviously what people will do? They will give them gender neutral clothing colors. So therefore they don't do the wrong colors or whatever. And so I say that to say that, again, that's his opinion.

Speaker 2: 14:03

But certain things doesn't need to be said and everything doesn't need to be said outward and so. But at the same time, when people do show their true colors about saying stupid shit, I like it, but it's like come on now another example people aren't using with these red pill talks about who needs to be submissive, feminine energy, masculine energy and all this other stuff, and it's like it's so boring. It's to me, it's like anti-black and it's like counterintuitive, counterproductive, I'm sorry, counterproductive about it, cause, like, what is it really? What is this really gonna help? It's not gonna do anything. And it's like to me, if that's the type of relationship you want, fine, but like, you know how certain conversations can make people want to have interactions, and do we really need that type of energy going on? I think not. So it's like yeah and so, like, stop doing that.

Speaker 2: 15:05

And then over sharing, oh my gosh. Like and I'll talk about this other part as well with the bubble culture but like over sharing as far as like telling people, like I remember some years ago somebody had posted a picture of their baby doing a blowout. Like why, why are you sharing it on my timeline? I don't need to see that. I think they deleted it later. And then I remember that there was this couple where she was in a bikini and so I guess her significant other had took a picture I'm pretty sure it was consensual and he ended up posting it and it was like, yeah, you know, my woman looks good, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I noticed that later on in the day that he had deleted that and so, like to me, those were both examples of over sharing, because it's like, okay, you don't know how your significant other felt looking in that bikini, and they might, and your significant other she might have felt like yo, you're showing a little bit too much, or whatever.

Speaker 2: 16:10

And so I think it's like one of those things that, yay, again, you know, you are proud of yourself. Probably your significant other you wanna share stuff that might make somebody laugh or whatever for the memories. But yeah, and my boo thing, he get told me because I always like to take pictures of the things that we do, cause I was like, well, you know, if my memory gets bad, I wanna be able to remember this quote, unquote and stuff. And now I'm starting to understand that with him he thinks that I overshare too much or whatever. So of course I'm not gonna always get it right and my response to him was like it's not over sharing at least I'm not tagging you in the pictures and stuff like that. So I might decide to like step away with like documenting us having so much time and fun with each other, or whatever Cause. You know it's not all about me.

Speaker 2: 17:02

But I feel like, in conclusion, that there is a balance between everything. You know what I'm saying, so I don't know what that balance is, and sometimes you might not always get it right. You might have to delete or apologize, but just be mindful of the things that you say and you do and who's around you, because you never know who's listening, who you might have been. Let's get it popping. I blow out the bubbles surrounding pop culture and talk about it. I finally saw club Shay Shay and Monique the comedian. Look, I hate admitting when I'm wrong or changing my view about things, but that's the part of evolution. Okay, I gotta say it.

Speaker 2: 17:47

I apologize for being on that train so many years ago, thinking that Monique wasn't worth more than a milli, a milli, a milli that Netflix initially offered her Stupidly. I felt like she should be appreciative for money that they offered because she wasn't relevant. At the time, I did not think she was low-balled due to her race or her gender. I since then, have changed my mind. White people will get mad money for acting black or invited to the cookout for being the bare minimum of a human. Now, other things Monique said I don't agree with, which is fine, which let me put a pin in it, okay.

Speaker 2: 18:30

So, like my book Think and I, as I told you before, we have been looking at Marvel in its entirety timeline, yeah, timeline. So we had to go back to go through the defenders and, oh my goodness, the character. What is her name? Karen, that was on the Daredevil, oh my gosh, that right there to me is the epitome of white privilege and also the bare minimum effort. Like the jig was working for a spoiler alert.

Speaker 2: 19:09

But Daredevil met her as she was working at this job. Oh my gosh, okay, she was working at this job and stuff, and so, like, they helped her with her case and so she didn't have any money to pay her back. So she ended up being Daredevil and his assistant Foggy being their secretary, right, okay? So then she moved on from being a secretary to be a writer at the local newspaper within Hell's Kitchen. Like what the fuck? So, okay, fine, wait, wait. But here's the crazy part about it as the secretary someway somehow now I don't know too much about legal stuff, I don't even know if she was considered a paralegal but like she was able to sit at the table with Foggy and the Daredevil, like if that right there, like if people say oh, you know, white privilege does not exist, bullshit. Yes, I get it. That's just a show and it's fictional. But sometimes fiction goes with reality. And so my boo thing and I were looking at this was like how the fuck she went from a secretary at the place and being able to sit at the table in the court next to the two attorneys and then went from there to being able to write a story, and now that's her job. She's a reporter for the local news I mean newspapers like are you fucking kidding me? So that's the shit I mean.

Speaker 2: 20:39

Anyway, back to Monique. Now there are other things that Monique said that I don't agree with, which is fine. I ain't gotta agree with every take. Humans are multi-dimensional, we're full of laws and sometimes we need to evolve. I want to say all the time, but I'll put the sometimes in there. But to me, the money portion, yeah, everything is part of the isms. Isms mean racism, genderism, feminism, like all that. Well, obviously not the feminism part, but you know what I mean Sexism. There we go, okay. So, speaking more about Monique, I think her marriage reminds me of Asian play, bdsm, regardless if they say the verb is you're not. That's the file that I'm getting for them From that relationship.

Speaker 2: 21:24

I disagree with her view about bunnets because my thing is Massa is not here anymore so I can look how I want to look, and there has been photo proof that white people used to walk around with rollers in their head and scarves around their head. I'm pretty sure I mentioned this before. So it's like now we supposed to look presentable and you don't know what I'm going through. So maybe this is presentable enough for me and from a spiritual point of view, some of us need to cover our hair. Now, what I wear upon it? Probably not, but I do wear a hair coverance and stuff. So to me, what's the difference? And I wear a bunnet when I go to bed and everything, but it's like, as long as it's for me, and me only as long as I'm street legal and what I'm wearing with the fuck and I'm not here to impress anybody. Which sidebar? Oh my gosh.

Speaker 2: 22:15

This past weekend I went out to the park by myself, I didn't have to ask my booth to buy anything for me and I was so happy. I don't think I was matching with my outfit either, but I just got off at work and I was so happy to enjoy happy hour and to like, eat and like. Last week I forgot to put this on my what's going on, but here we are about. It was a lot of self care. Last week I got my manicure, pedicure, got my hair done and I was able, like I said, to eat and stuff and I did not have to worry about if I was going to try to highlight me or not and everything. And, oh my gosh, it makes me feel so great because I already got somebody and I'm so comfortable with myself that I don't give a fuck, like I don't have to be everybody's cup of tea and stuff.

Speaker 2: 23:03

So it's like to me with Monique if she's one of those type of people who want to be, who want to have a lasting impression on strangers, so be it. And I guess from a celebratory point of view it makes sense because you know again, anything anybody put on the internet is there forever, but me I'm like man, fuck that shit. So that right there I don't agree with at all and stuff. So, um, oh yeah, and her, her, her, saying that her husband told her how to be a woman and on her place in the marriage. I disagree with that too, because I hardly believe in a partnership and I feel like if men say that women can raise men to be men, then damn it. Men can raise women or tell women how to be a woman and stuff.

Speaker 2: 23:55

And I don't think that there is anything that my boo thing can teach me about being a woman at all. We don't have the same things. So it's not like I can tell him how to, and I know it's more than just sex organs. But the point of what I'm trying to say is that we are not the same. We're not the same underneath our clothes.

Speaker 2: 24:13

So, like that part, now you can suggest hey, you know, boo thing, I would like for you to wear this, this, and that I don't mean that that makes me more or less of a woman, and stuff like that, because I don't know for me when I think about saying about how to be a woman, it makes me think of sexual stuff, and I'm not trying to sexualize it, but I'm so used to like people sexualizing the parts of a woman, you know. And on top of that I'm so used to hearing men talk about what a real woman is and stuff like that, and of course it sounds so transphobic and I'm not gonna repeat that stuff, but like even saying about like how they used and the outfits and everything should look, and it's just not. No, that's just not working for me. I don't mind people have suggestions and opinions, but you gotta teach me. And then, of course, the way that my mind is thinking, it's like teaching me for real, like it's almost like Teaching a child, like I feel like you have to teach a child, but you shouldn't have to teach an adult certain things. You shouldn't have to teach a woman how to be a woman when she's been a woman our entire life, like what sisters that make. That's how I feel. And my place I'm not married, obviously, but my place is wherever the fuck I want my place to be like. If I want to sit At the head of the motherfucking table, I will, and if I want my boot they need to sit at the end of the table. You know, like I don't know, just to me little itty-bitty things like that Just don't sit with me. But if she like it, I love it. The part about her son I saw bits and pieces about on TikTok and it got to be too much for me, like I felt like I did not need to be Brevy to the back and forth of the things they were saying. Like I'm nosy to a point y'all, but sometimes those things get a little bit cringy.

Speaker 2: 26:04

Now, speaking of children, the esthetician she's from Memphis, no less. Allegedly, even though there were pictures, allegedly. There's a picture of her seven-year-old daughter performing a Brazilian wax on an adult and according to the mom, she said their child performed the Brazilian wax on about what? 24 women from 7 am To like 3 pm. Ish and the daughter allegedly made a little bit over seven hundred dollars from it. Now, look, I get it.

Speaker 2: 26:40

Now, listen to this part very carefully because I'm not agreeing with none of this, but look, I get it. Your spouse and or your children can work for you under your LLC. We know that. That's a fact. However, however, however, and however However your dependents, which is your spouse and or your children. They have to be of age to do this task and, according to Tennessee law, to be an esthetician you gotta be a minimum of 60 years old.

Speaker 2: 27:08

This child was seven, according to the mom, and you know that you have to follow a by by child labor laws. So like, come on now, there's no fucking way that the mama thought this was cute. There's no fucking way that these women thought that was cute to consistently show their body to a child. I don't give a fuck that they were women and the child is a girl. To me it's nasty, very nasty and it's illegal. And this goes back to what I said Everything does not need to be shared. But hey, because she was able to share this and it got through the proper authorities, you know they were called and it was able to be taken down. Unfortunately, again, because it's on the internet, is there forever. But at least, like, she shared the pictures, even though she was wrong for sharing them, but the authorities were called and they took care of it. So that way, her and the other women involved well, hopefully, the other women involved can get persecuted or Whatever the flow for it is, but hopefully this will teach her and anybody else like you don't do that shit.

Speaker 2: 28:18

You do not display yourself, don't children in that way at all. And you know I love to read comments, as some of the comments were like there's nothing wrong with that and I hate this culture. I play in capitalism but I hate which is another ism, but I hate this culture of getting money by any means necessary To survive. I don't like that, like you know from, as I've said before, staying up late and not getting your sleep because you know you're you're on sleep when you die, like no, that also culture is not cool. And now it's kind of to the point like, oh, you know, let that little girl make that money, what you know. That is not how that works.

Speaker 2: 29:01

And I just sometimes I try to see the thought process behind people with the things that they say, and I can't see it for this, like, the only assumption that I can make is that this Mother had to think that this was okay, because this is our LLC and this is her child, but I don't understand how she thought it was okay to show now, granted, there was no pictures that from what I saw, thank goodness but there was no pictures showing, but the implication was there and that's disgusting and nasty and I'm assuming that the child back was turned again. I'm not for sure and it's not like I was out looking for the pictures, the pictures before the prosecution. The stuff has said a stop sharing these pictures, but they came across my feet and everything like that. And, oh my gosh, like the part that bothers me is that the people who decided to report on this other people like y'all didn't even like Cut the picture out or just like not post the picture period. Like we do not need to see this woman leg up in the back of the child. Like, again, I'm not for sure if the child face ever was shown, but like we do not need to see the legs being cocked up to imply what is going on.

Speaker 2: 30:26

Like that was just too much. It was just too much. It was just too much. So again, this is where I go back to saying like you all were shared, that was nasty, that was disgusting, that was illegal and, yeah, you did too much Croak on the joke. That's where I give you my business jokes and we laugh together. Or nah, today's joke. Did you hear about the pregnant bedbug? She'll be having a baby in the spring? Well, guess that's my cute leave.